We are settling back into the routine of our life here on the island. We have posted a schedule on the wall so that we can make sure that we are capturing our time and spending it wisely. And yes, we are still having our weekly administration meeting. 🙂 So many people have questioned how beneficial it really is, but we have found it to be VERY helpful and it has prevented us from getting into many “lively conversations”. 🙂
We are sensing that the Lord has truly blessed us by bringing us to Drummond for many different reasons, the obvious is to have a place to lay our heads which He has orchestrated so richly and beautifully. But even past our superficial needs He is showing us that we needed this time to really focus on our relationship with one another and deal with things within our marriage that have been put to the side for many years, even going back to the beginning of our relationship.
We have found that marriage is truly a picture of the Gospel to the world, so more than ever, we are realizing that we need to make sure ours is solid. After all that is our main purpose now; to share the Good News with everyone, so it’s kind of important that our marriage is accurately depicting this. Thankfully we are in a place in our relationship where fierce emotions and tears can erupt out of nowhere, we are mature enough and love each other enough to be able to “hash things out” in a way that is not damaging to the other person. Believe us when we say that has not always been the case!
The Lord has definitely used our marriage to stretch us in areas we did NOT want to be flexible. He has taught us to ENDURE with each other even when we felt the other person was intolerable! We’ve always thought the word endure, meant to “put up with each other”, with a begrudging kind of attitude, but now for the first time we are learning “a more excellent way.” (1 Cor 12:31-13:1) God is “changing our mind” (metanoia) on how we conduct ourselves. This “more excellent way” is actually LOVING someone enough to PAUSE and ask the Lord to give you incite into the issue. When He gives you the wisdom then you can SPEAK LIFE into a person even when you don’t have an inkling as to what or why they are doing something. It’s taking the time to really UNDERSTAND them even when you are hurt, by choosing to love them faithfully even when you don’t believe you have the capacity or the energy for it. Your motive is because you would rather be like Jesus than being right.
For example, there was a time in our communication where a statement like this would be said, “You never spend time with me!”(This puts the other person on the defensive) Now we are learning to speak, using words of life such as, “I would like to spend more time with you because I enjoy you. Can we make a plan on how we can do that?” Wow! What a simple principle and it may seem so “Elementary my Dear Watsonish”, but so unbelievably revolutionary to our marriage!!! Instead of approaching things with a negative slant we are learning to operate from a positive standpoint. This “more excellent way” still deals with the matter, without sweeping it under the rug, but handles it with truth AND love and with the idea of restoring the relationship. (Eph 4:15)
This whole idea of “changing our mind” in how we operate is coinciding strangely enough with our Bible study in the book of Acts, which is another topic of discussion that we will be possibly addressing in the future. We keep seeing throughout the Scripture, how God’s love causes people to have a “change of mind” towards Him. We are personally experiencing a “changing of our mind” not only towards the Lord but to each other. We are no longer just intellectually assenting to what the Bible tells us, but we are trying to follow what it says and finding LOVE should always be central.
Over time He has caused us to learn to forgive and move on and not hold a record of wrong. In His sovereignty, He put us together knowing that we were pretty much opposites in the way we communicate. Historically this caused friction with little change or growth. Through the years He has taught us how to speak to one another with wisdom and understanding. After being married for almost 23 years, we have found that if you allow the Lord to use your marriage to sanctify yourself and not fight against it, then He can transform you more and more into the image of His Son Jesus and you can truly display to the world what is an accurate depiction of who Jesus is and His bride.
Being here on Drummond Island has provided a place for us not only to minister to those around us, but for us to be ministered to by the Lord and to work things out between us that we haven’t had the time to do up till now. This is the HUGE, AND UNEXPECTED BLESSING and we are very aware that it is from the Lord. A wise pastor/friend of Scott’s said when he was praying over him that he believed that being here on Drummond Island would be a time for us and a time of refreshment. Those words have become prophetically true. We are so thankful that God is all-knowing and He knew exactly what we needed and when we needed it.
Thoughts for this week:
If you have found yourself in a place where your marriage needs help. Humble yourself before the Lord and He will exalt you. (1 Peter 5:6 and James 4:10) Whatever the issue is, the Lord can and will handle it the way only He can. Just be ready to have a “metanoia” (changing of your mind) and be willing to obey. Usually the thing the Lord asks you to do, is the harder thing. Are you willing to go that far to DO the harder thing? Ask the Lord for strength and for wisdom on how to love your spouse so that you can display the Gospel to those around you with power and genuineness. Remember it was His LOVE that covered a multitude of your sins. Let us love the way Jesus did and love one another deeply. (1 Peter 4:8)
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